The internet is full of advice for the best man looking for ideas for a free best man speech. I've spent days reading everything I could find on best man speeches. Much of what I found may very well be a guide of what NOT to say at the wedding reception.
The best man's speech is traditional at the reception and it can send any grown man into a stammering, heart pounding, palm sweating mess. But with some preparation and thought, it could be the hit of the reception and something the couple will remember every time they think of their wedding.
The best man's speech is a prelude to the traditional wedding toast to the couple, convey a message about your relationship to the couple, and thank the families for hosting the reception.
What not to say:
- Don't try to be witty and make disparaging remarks about marriage. No one liners like: Marriage is a 4 ring circus: Engagement ring, wedding ring, suffer-ring and endue-ring. The couple and their families won't appreciate it.
- No off color stories. Grandma and both bride and groom's families will be in attendance.
- No embarrassing stories of the bride or groom. It's their special day. They don't need to be reminded of something they'd rather forget.
- No stories of ex girlfriends or boyfriends.
- No frat party stories or kegger stories.
What to say:
- Talk about your relationship with the groom. "We met in grade school and have been best friends ever since". Share some funny, G rated stories of growing up, or college or of a road trip.
- Talk about meeting his bride. How you just knew that she was the one for him. How they complete each other as a couple. How they've overcome obstacles and made it together.
- Talk about their common interests and their goals for the future.
- Thank the families for hosting the wedding, if they are indeed the wedding hosts.
- Thank the guests for joining the couple in celebrating on one of the happiest days of their lives.
- Speak from the heart. If you are the best man, you are probably his brother or best friend. Tell the couple you love them both and wish them the best that life has to offer. Use phrases like "May you be more in love in the future than you are today." "May your life be full of sunshine and happiness."
Don't ramble on, keep it short, keep it simple.
Stand up, speak to the crowd and be prepared. Practice your speech before the wedding. Take a deep breath before you speak to relax. If you need note cards, use note cards.
Look at the couple while you are speaking, but when it's time to toast, look out to the crowd and ask them to raise their glasses to the new Mr and Mrs.
Raise your glass, ask the crowd to join in and make your toast. "May you live long in health and love". "May your life together be long and prosperous and full of enduring love". You get the idea. For more help on putting together your best man speech, Click Here!